Caregiver Communication with older adults who are cognitively impaired or have short term memory loss
Communication with older adults with cognitive impairment requires unique training and sensitivity. Poor communication from family, care staff or friends can cause the older adult to become depressed, withdrawn, or even silent.
Here are some tips for communicating with older adults with cognitive or memory impairment:
1. Structure and consistency are critical with care and daily activities, stick to a routine.
2. Do not argue or debate with them. Please.
3. Do not remind them that they are forgetting. This can cause frustration and sadness for the older adult.
4. Prompting and filling in is appropriate. For example, you may fill in nouns for them if they are struggling to remember a name. Labeling names of items or places may help too. Remind them of your name, “Hi Dad, it is Jacqueline.” If he says “no kidding,” maybe say, “Just wanted to remind you of the beautiful name you named me.” Or “Dad, Sara, your caregiver just arrived.” Reminding your loved one of the name will ease frustration, without being demeaning. Sometimes, just giving your loved one a hug goes a long way.
5. Do not speak about Your Loved One or their condition in front of them. Please go in another room or if not possible, ask them: “Is it ok if I report a few issues today about how you are feeling to the doctor?” Usually, it is not appropriate to speak about someone in the third person as it may cause depression or lower someone’s self-efficacy. If a physician or medical person talks “over or through them,” in other words ignores that they are present, please advocate and correct the professional. Ageism should not be tolerated.
6. Signs and written communication are very helpful. You may want to label where the bathroom is with directional arrows, or the exit door with large signs.
7. Redirection is so important. When someone is having a hard time, try to ask them about someone or some pleasant event from their long term memory, such as “Mom, remind me of what sport you played in high school.” If you know your parent loves a sports team, you can say for instance, “How about those Yankees?” Anything to get them off the subject or matter that is bothering them or they maybe obsessing about.
For more tips, contact Dr. Jacqueline DuPont Gerontologist at assuredinhomecare.org